Recently it has been really heavy on my heart the matter of how ladies talk to other ladies about their God-given rolls of wife and mother (including myself at times). A few days ago I was in a conversation with a couple other ladies (listening more than participating) and listened as the ladies talked about various mothering tasks. It was as if they were trying to take the easiest route in everything…to not make too much work for themselves, complaining about their children, talking as if being a wife and mother was a “chore” they had to endure. Now, I don’t know these ladies hearts, but I had to stand there and listen to what was being said and wonder if that is how I come across to others.
Is this the message that we should be portraying not only to others, but to our very husband and children? I don’t think so. I know there are times in our mothering that are not as enjoyable as others….situations that take a lot of work, a lot of time, a lot of discipline….but it is during those times that we have the opportunity to embrace joy…to embrace the wonderful calling that God has given us…to find things to be thankful for…and in the process find true joy and peace that only He can give. But…is this what we do..what I do? OR do we tend to wallow in self-pity, to resent our children for how much work they are, to make grunts, groans, and sighs a regular part of our day?
I am reminded of the verse in Proberbs 14:1 – “A wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”
A wise woman BUILDS…
…builds relationships with her children and husband
…builds loveliness in her home through cleanliness and touches of beauty
…builds healthy bodies by providing good home-cooked meals for her family
…builds a solid relationship with the Lord through daily time in His Word
…builds a home where Christ is honored, served, and worshiped
The Lord has really been convicting me in some of these areas lately. Am I truly embracing with JOY… ALL areas of being a wife and mother? Do I count each moment a blessing and a gift from God? Do I pour out myself to my husband and children…offering my whole heart OR do I do things half-heartedly and just “enough” to get by?
My challenge to you (and to myself) is to embrace each moment of the day with joy. Count it ALL joy! God has given you a precious husband and precious children to love and serve. Serve them with your whole heart. Take each mundane task and turn it into an act of worship and service to your Lord and family. Choose JOY! Choose THANKFULNESS! I want to portray to my husband and children what a blessing they are…to build them up…not tear them down by my attitude, my body language, or my words.
When talking to others I want to convey to them this very same attitude…that being a wife and mother is a JOY…and to show them that there is a better way…a way of true joy and peace…but that can only come as we lay down our selfishness, come to Him, and allow Him to fill us with His love and joy.
Dear Heavenly Father, I pray that each lady reading this will be challenged to embrace the wonderful calling of wife and mother in a new way. To see each moment as a blessing and to build up their family as they never have before. Help me, Lord, to choose joy…to choose thankfulness…and allow You to change me. Amen.